Penis Jealousy In The Swinging Lifestyle

What to do when you get a visit from that green-eyed monster.

Editor's Note: Our friends Sandi and Ted from Canada wrote this article and we thought we should share it with you.  You can find more from Sandi and Ted at their website sandionswinging.com.  Not only does Sandi have some great advice, her and Ted publish a magazine, have an online community and even sell sexy products. Her's what they have to say (okay, we think it's Sandi doing most of the saying but we're sure Ted agrees):

Regardless of if you are trying swinging for the first time, or are a long time swinger, there are times when you may get a visit from that green-eyed monster. If you are new to the swing lifestyle, the chances are greater that this feeling may come over you. Please don’t let it get the better of you and decide that swinging is just not for you because of this. There are ways to work through it.

First let’s look into some of the reasons you may get this jealous feeling when swinging.  What if he is bigger down there than I am? This is a common one among men; they are just so competitive. First off guys, let’s get this straight… size doesn’t matter to women (okay, now that I made you smile, let’s get serious). I will be honest. Size does matter to some women, but only to a point. Many couples are only into soft swinging (which means no intercourse with the other partner), so in that case, size does not matter. Actually a little smaller is better since it makes for a much better blow job when she can fit all of you in her mouth! (Just saying).

If you are going for full swap intercourse with the other couple, and you see he is bigger than you, that may be the time jealousy or envy pops in. Remember that new swing partners will be looking for something different than what they already have, so smaller may just be what she is looking for. If you think your size is going to be a problem for her or that you may not be able to give her an orgasm because you are small, then use your hands! Your fingers can do wonders to her clit while you are inside of her. You can also try different positions - doggy style is one of the best to reach deeper inside of her, plus it has the added bonus of having you rub on her g-spot (that’s the spot just a few inches inside of her at the front of her vagina) at the same time.

SandiThe biggest point I can make to help you is to try not to think about it too much. If you are worried about your size, you may not get as hard as you usually get, and that will end up being more of a problem for you and her than your size will ever be.

I hope this helps if you are having penis jealously or envy issues, or think it may be a problem for you in the future. 

Keep watching DPT News because from time to time, we'll feature other useful information on the swinging lifestyle from Sandi and Ted.  Remember what Sandi says, "Take care of your little issues one by one so you can relax and have a great time as a swinger."  We couldn't have said it better.  Thanks Sandi!

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