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In 2010, Mira Bellwether wrote "Fucking Trans Women," the first piece of its kind that outlined the sex lives of trans women as an educational and instructional piece of text. In the zine, Bellwether discusses "muffing," a term that describes the act of pushing the testicle back inside of a male-bodied person's inguinal canal or penetrating the ing...

To most "squares," the idea of a swingers party elicits visions of a cramped room full of writhing, sweat-soaked bodies; people uninhibited by "traditional" sexual protocols. But, in reality, a sex party is a finely orchestrated get-together that not only requires a good bit of planning, but quite a few rules too. When you're dealing with a large g...

In the midst of glowing reviews of several Belizean resorts recently awarded by renowned travel site, Trip Advisor, the country is also receiving international exposure for two week-long swingers' parties set to be hosted on a private island off the coast of Dangriga. The UK's Daily Sun, this week, reported that a US- based travel agency, Dream Ple...

Think you know a lot about sex? Maybe you're right, but there's always more to learn! Here are 110 sex facts you may not know. According to a survey of adults aged 20 to 59, women have an average of four sex partners during their lifetime; men have an average of seven. Source: National Center for Health Statistics According to sex researchers Willi...

We all have a million and one other obligations - kids, parents, work, binge-watching Netflix - and they often interfere with our sex lives. Once you discover your kinks – and the fun you can have with them - sometimes you crave a little carnal fun. More sex, please! But real life sometimes seems intent on stopping your kinky fun. What can you do a...

There are a few reasons why someone might want to engage in discrete public displays of kink. While everyone wants to be authentic in their sexual identities, some might be concerned with offending the sensibilities of non-kinksters or afraid of triggering negative reactions. Kink-identifying people might be more concerned with social shaming and r...

As both a writer and an avid reader, a clever turn of a phrase has long been one of my greatest turn-ons. In the days of dating apps and "U awake?" texts, it's harder to get my fix of the written word. That's one of the reasons that I love long-distance play. Although long-distance relationships come with their own challenges, they do force you to ...

Everyone carries with them their own unique advantages. For the gay community, their advantage is undoubtedly mastering oral sex. Not only are they on the receiving end, they're on the giving end. Straight women, on the other hand, no matter how much they might perform the act, will never compare to a gay man. It's not because one gender is better ...

To be honest, it's not that difficult to make a guy orgasm. It takes work, that's for sure. But that's the case with anybody during sex. The orgasm doesn't just flow on its own, so to speak. However, that's not to say you can't get creative. There's a technique called the lingam massage, and it's about to become your man's new best friend. Its func...

What if we told you that better sex was possible in just 14 days' time? Actually, it is – if you're willing to put in the time and effort. You're up for it, right? After all, a big part of keeping your sex life hot and healthy has to do with learning more about yourself, learning more about your partner and just making an effort. Valentine's day is...

Let's talk about casual sex - that thing that good girls and old ladies don't do. It's just …. bad, sinful, and filled with emotionally fraught! I started to think about this when I made a list of 60 things I want to do, which includes casual sex, in this year following my 60th birthday. So, what's wrong with casual sex? Regardless of our "older" a...

For something that occupies such a tiny plot of land on the body, there's a lot of concern given to the upkeep of pubic hair. A recent Cosmopolitan.com survey indicates that 62 percent of female respondents groom their pubes at least weekly. Your pubic hair is something relatively few people see, yet it raises so many questions. What's trendy for p...

It turns out a nice, robust derriere is more than just a $exual attraction turn on, but an actual indicator of increased intelligence, and an indicator for chronic illness resistance! This interesting news comes straight from scientists from the University of Oxford who found out these remarkable traits exist with women who have big butts. Turns ou...

Let's be real for a minute. Many men love talking about their penises. How big they are, how well they perform ... and how much bigger they are than their buddies'. Why all the obsession with the beef stick? It's probably as simple as the fact that it's not as elusive as the lady bits are, which makes it easier to measure and compare. And compare t...

A few months ago, I received an invitation to write a piece on the travel trend of clothing-optional resorts by going to three with my partner: Desire Riviera Maya Pearl Resort, Desire Riviera Maya Resort, and Temptation Cancun Resort in Mexico. I know, I have the best job ever. Naturally, I emailed the PR rep back with a "yes" within an hour, and ...

Aside from an occasional towel, you'll be hard pressed to find a stitch of fabric on the hundreds of people lounging in and by the pool at this Jamaican resort. For the most part, people congregate in groups in the water or the swim-up bar, chit-chatting and swapping stories as any vacationers might, though perhaps with a bit more revelry and boist...

If there's any aspect of sex that's misunderstood, debated about and often under-appreciated, it's foreplay. But while many people think of foreplay as preamble, a required formality you have to go through before getting to the good stuff, it is great foreplay that sets the stage for great sex. Think of it like kicking off a meal at a fancy restaur...

The more of it I read, the more I am fascinated with sex research. It takes courage to be a sex researcher: you need to convince people to participate - and convince funding agencies to help pay for it all. Because sex is still such a big taboo, both these things are more difficult than it seems. I'm fairly lucky to live in Canada, where sex resear...

If you ask most people what their number one sexual fantasy is, chances are they'll say a threesome. Very few people in this world have actually turned down the opportunity to have a threesome, but once they get down to business, they might be surprised to find out there are some rules that come with having threesomes. Here, threesome expert and ad...

Nude photoshoots are getting more popular than ever before, and it's really no surprise. In the times of nude selfies, sexting, and Instagram modeling, being naked has never been more glamorous or more appreciated. The problem with nude photos is that most people think that they are something that only the super thin, youthful, and glitzy models of...

What's sexier than variety? When men strip down to their birthday suits in front of women, they're met with either intrigue, perplexity or fear. These are the core birthday suit reactions. It's science. But these reactions aren't always so much directed toward the man's member, but the forest (or lack thereof) surrounding said member. Pubic hair co...

When I wrote my semi-ranty piece about Hotwife Training earlier this year, I had completely underestimated the earnest desire of men who wanted to get their partners interested in Hotwifing. I initially assumed these husbands were solely motivated by their own sexual proclivities but as I discovered more about the lifestyle, I've come to understand...

According to a recent study, lesbians have more orgasms than straight women. So I think we can safely assume straight guys could stand to learn something about pleasing women from their lady-loving counterparts. Cosmopolitan.com gathered some sex tips from lesbians to send to your boyfriend for all the orgasms. 1. Get out of bed already. Chairs, ki...

As 2018 fast approaches, it's impossible to avoid the mandatory talk of resolutions. Sure, the new year marks a time for new beginnings, but the "fix it" mentality can seem ... kind of overwhelming, am I right? This is especially true for people like me who don't like a lot of rules. While there's an obvious upside to making healthier choices (thin...

What's it like being a swinger? How do they handle other people sleeping with their significant other? Do they feel turned on, insecure or downright jealous? We turned to Reddit to look for these answers and what we found was an entire community of swingers, all of whom were more than happy to disclose the many secrets of their lifestyle. Here, we ...

  MARRIOTT HOTEL SUED  12/28/2017 12:20 AM PST Marriott Hotel Sued for Kicking Out Woman Who Booked Room on Swingers' Floor Can't say we've heard this before -- a woman is suing Marriott for allegedly kicking her out of one of their hotels 'cause she was a non-swinger on a swingers' floor ... yup. Hale Lewis says she booked a 3-day stay a...

1. What "real" bodies look like. If you've never been to a kink party or a BDSM dungeon, I've got news for you. You see a lot of flesh. People wear sexy and revealing clothing or no clothing at all. People have sex where you can watch. There are boobs and butts and dicks. Some belong to your lovers and friends and others belong to strangers. And wh...

1. Drunk sex Early in a relationship, it's typical to get tipsy and/or flat-out wasted before getting naked together. Alcohol eases our inhibitions and makes the process of learning someone else's body slightly less intimidating. If booze helps you figure out how to turn your partner on and get them off, so be it! 2. Hungover sex Whether you were b...

So, you finally realized everything you knew about being a swinger was a complete lie. You're welcome. And maybe after reading that story, you and your partner were like: "Well, since it's not all old people with robes, watching you with somebody else might be kind of exciting..." Or maybe not. But either way, if you're even remotely considering ge...

So, you're in a steady relationship and everything is going great, but you're starting to fixate on the idea of a threesome and aren't sure how to ask your girl? Fret not, homies. Every man on Earth has desired multiple partners in bed. It's hardly taboo anymore. In all honesty, women have those same exact fantasies, but we're not as quick to act o...

Exactly a year ago, my three-year relationship ended, I moved into a new apartment, I was picking up freelancing for the first time, and I had just booked a flight to Europe. My funds were low and my goals were high. I felt empowered and free. However, my bank account told me otherwise and hindered my ability to properly begin my new, single life. ...

1. You can never have enough lube . "There's this myth that lube is some kind of crutch to lean on; that if you need it during sex, you're not doing it right. That's totally false. Everyone can benefit from lube. It reduces friction during sex, and while some friction can be pleasurable, too much can lead to the equivalent of rug burn inside your b...

1. It's a great way to hit the G-spot. Doggy-style sex is perfect for deep penetration that will hit the G-spot, so it's great for women who like it deep and basically any guy ever. And although manuals as old as the Kama Sutra and even relatively recent guides recommend it, some studies do dispute the idea of a g-spot. Still, it's a great way to a...

As a mom with three kids under the age of 10, I feel like the word "no" has become my default answer to everything , whether to my kids (no , you can't have candy for breakfast!) or to myself ( no, that bikini is not for you) or to my husband ( no , not tonight, honey — I'm too tired, I have to get up too early, I have too much work to do...) — no,...

What makes sex great? Well, that can be a bit different for everyone. One person's "Yum!" can be another person's "Yuck!" However, there are things that definitely mean you are having great sex. I've put together this list of 6 sure fire signs that the sex you are having is off the charts. Sign #1 - You Can Ask for What You Want Sometimes you ...

If you are a newbie going to a swingers club or a meet-up for the first time, you may be wondering what type of questions the other couples that you meet will ask you. Regardless of what you end up talking about with that couple you meet, you can expect to get asked at least a few of these questions. 1. What are you into? The question one couple as...

Threesomes are one of those sex acts that are either a great idea or a horrible idea depending on the couple. If you have a threesome before you're ready, you will probably have to deal with a lot of relationship problems that wouldn't have existed if you just stayed as a dynamic duo. On the other hand, threesomes are incredibly hot when you're rea...

Having sex with other couples can be really hot IF you're all on the same page. The swing lifestyle is nothing new. The concept of swingers and swinging has been around for years. The only difference is that people have started talking about it more openly. If you and your honey would like to get a little kinky and experiment with this sexual adven...

No matter what you call it — an open relationship, swinging, polyamory — one thing is definitely certain: Non-monogamous relationships are a very complex subject and no two couples are the same. But regardless of the specifics of the arrangement, communication and consent are vital, and it's important to discuss your limits , and to know your partn...

Truth: There's nothing better than the honeymoon phase of a relationship. Everything is new. It's all a great, mysterious adventure. Every joke he tells is adorable. The way she cuts her chicken wings with a knife and fork is just so damn precious. No one goes to the bathroom. Ever. It's just a f***ing dream... ...until it's not. Six months in his ...

Knowing how to make a guy happy in bed is important. As a couple, you want to be sure you're pleasing each other right. So what do guys like in bed? You should always be striving to please your man sexually just as he should be doing the same for you. But sometimes that's not easy. This is especially true if he's not really the talkative time. It'l...

In this day and age, it amazes me that women are still shamed for being sexual beings. Um, hello?! We're human! We have desires and fantasies and needs, damn it, just like men! So how is it that we're living in a society where women have fought for the right to vote, for equality in the workplace, and for the freedom of choice when it comes to our ...

You've probably heard that variety is the spice of life. Well, that doesn't just apply to food and weekend excursions; it also applies to sex. Because let's face it, pumping away at the same repetitive missionary moves can dampen the flame of passion. To keep things hot and heavy, couples need to keep things interesting. So forget plain vanilla - s...

Facts about sex toys...well, here's one for you: The sex toy industry is worth about $15 billion per year worldwide. That's a lot of dildos, people. But while statistics show that more than half of Americans have used a sex toy and you can now find them in many drugstores, pleasure products still aren't quite mainstream. Depending on your audience,...

How long can you stay naked without feeling uncomfortable? Most of us are not comfortable with our own bodies and thus, do not like sleeping naked. But it is a scientifically proven fact that sleeping naked has its benefits. If you are sleeping without clothes, you are bound to have better sleep and lower levels of stress. Here are 7 amazing benefi...

JC's Tip: I love this article! A lot of these tips you can do at Hedonism or the Desires.  I t's exhibitionist's season! The sizzling heat, beautiful weather, and long summer nights are all perfect reasons to let your inner exhibitionist loose and have some sexy outdoor fun! Sex on the Beach Not only is it my favorite alcoholic beverage, but i...

Exhibitionists get a bad rap. Sure, there's a subset of people who have a compulsion to expose themselves to strangers at really inappropriate times - on a subway, on the freeway, in the grocery store - when the stranger is not at all interested in seeing their junk. However, there are many other people who simply get a thrill out of revealing part...

Are you a woman? Do you have sex? If you answered "yes" to these two questions, then someone, somewhere, thinks you are a slut . According to the Oxford English Dictionary, a slut is "a slovenly or promiscuous ." Of course, it's a derogatory word. It's meant to be an insult: "You're a woman who's having lots of sex! You're dirty and a terrible pers...

I consider myself very lucky. At the other end of a phone line, whenever I want or need, is my Grandmother; all 95 years and counting of her. Full of spunk and sass, she's the type that will help wheel people 20 years younger than her down to the dinner hall of their home and, if the need arises, she'll have also shucked the corn they have for dinn...

Hand jobs get such a bad rap. In the last week alone, I heard them referred to as "immature" by Amy Schumer, saw them called "sad," and was finally greeted on Facebook by this quote: " Hand jobs are like Catcher in the Rye, if you're 15, they are the best thing ever. After that, you have had better, so what's the point?" -Sean Carswell Well, clearl...

I can vividly remember a conversation with a girlfriend of mine when I lived in California. Back then, she was approaching 40, while I was 35 and a stay-at-home mom with two small children under two years old. This friend told me that she and her husband were trying to have sex 100 days in a row. My first thought: That's not possible! My second tho...

When I first sat down with him, it was quite possibly the most nervous I had ever been upon entering a scene. I thought I was over-reacting at first; this guy only wanted me to spank him, right? However, It would be my first time dominating anyone. What I learned is that you can never be too careful when you're working with someone. You should alwa...

There are loads of statistics about how women tend not to ask for what they want and need. Not in academic settings, not in the boardroom and, although no one's talking about it, we know this one applies in the bedroom too. Actually, to be fair, research suggests that the vast majority of people undercommunicate when it comes to sex, even in long-t...

You've probably heard the term sex positive, but do you know what it means? In recent years, it has shifted from its feminist roots and has been used to refer to people who enjoy sex and are open to all forms of sexual expression. But, as with many aspects of sex and sexuality, it's actually a lot more complicated than that. Sure, embracing your (a...

  Sex toys may not be the perfect gift for everyone on your list, but wouldn't it be awesome if they were? I mean, when you think of all the junk that circulates and is re-gifted ( ohhhh … thanks for … this) every year, wouldn't it be awesome if we lived in a world where we could all hand out amazing orgasms to everyone we loved like holiday c...

One typical way of fighting heteronormativity is to answer the question "When did you decide you were gay/lesbian/bisexual?" with "When did you decide you were straight?" It turns the question on its head and gives the straight person a new perspective from which to evaluate their sexual identity. However, the fact that a straight identity is most ...

According to Brené Brown, PhD and shame researcher, "Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough. Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change." As a highly sexual, bisexual, and kinkster woman, I have to deal with a lot of shame thrown at me by the media, our patriarchal culture...

We all know that staying in shape keeps us healthy and predicates good sex in a number of ways - you look sexy, you feel happier, etc. But what about toning your body from the inside? As it turns out, women especially have some important sexual muscles they should be flexing if they want a healthy sex life. In 1952, Dr. Arnold Kegel invented a seri...

"Would you like to play Cupid?" read the job post. Completely unqualified, I landed a job co-managing a 10-page section of the Philadelphia Weekly and more than 500 singles. From a cubicle high above Rittenhouse Square, I had a blast fielding snail mail and hard copy photos from a sea of self-declared Tom Cruise wannabes and Sharon Stone look-alike...

Every year, technology gets a little more advanced, bringing us everything from color-changing WiFi enabled light bulbs to self-driving cars. The integration of tech and, well, everything has made life infinitely better and easier - almost irrefutably so. But when it comes to technology and sex, people's opinions are divided. Some say that letting ...

There will be sex with robots. There, I said it. If we're going to talk about the future of sex, we may as well get that out of the way right up front. But while robot sex is certainly a very sensational aspect of what the future of sex might look like, the thing that most people don't realize is that there's so much more to sex tech (yes, it's a t...

  New Years Group 2018 at Hedonism II Resort Ring in 2018 with all your Friends at Hedonism II Resort in Negril, Jamaica December 26 - January 2, 2018. Join us for seven nights of pure party at the #1 lifestyle Resort. Join your Dream Pleasure Tours staff for an incredible party week and ring in the New Year like never before! This is proven t...

Any sex therapist will tell you that the more you know about sex, the better you'll be in bed. If you're sexually misinformed, sex is likely to be less pleasurable for you and your partner.  Below, sex therapists from around the country share the most common misconceptions they've heard about sex. (For even more myths about sex and intimacy, h...

Picture it: You're with a partner, it's late at night and things are getting pretty hot. You're kissing, you're touching, you're sizing each other up for the next move. So you decide to make one: You reach under the bed and pull out ... your favorite sex toy. Now here's where things get interesting. Because while some people (both men and women) wi...

Have you ever wanted a sexy escape from reality, in a place where you can indulge and explore your fantasies in a completely judgement-free zone, with likeminded people? I know, it might sound too good to be true… but I promise you, there's a place where your fantasy really turns to reality. Temptation Resort Spa Cancun promises a one-of-a-kind adu...

Humans are natural exhibitionists (well, to at least some degree) whether it be having sex in a park, or wearing those tight mesh in-set leggings to the gym to show off that bodacious derrière. For most animals, showing off their sexual prowess is a way to display themselves to potential mates, but we participate in sexual acts for far more than ju...

If you have a healthy relationship, swinging can provide numerous benefits when approached properly. It's a consciously adopted lifestyle that requires education, communication, patience , and understanding – qualities required for any successful relationship. Swinging is not for everyone, but for some couples , it's a welcome addition that spices ...

People who have had threesomes love to brag about it more than any other sexual experience. Having more than one partner at a time – especially when they're both pleasing you – is one of the ultimate taboos. But, what's the reality behind this fantasy? I can happily say I've kicked it off my bucket list, and can give you some tips to make sure your...

"I think I masturbate more when I'm stressed." "You masturbate?" This conversation I had with a male friend embodies the surprise a lot of people express when they find out I not only masturbate but also admit it unabashedly. Because even though this friend and I talked about sex all the time and he knew I was sexually active in my relationships, t...

This year, Pornhub celebrated its tenth birthday. To commemorate the occasion, they released some fascinating data on trends in users' viewing habits. Among other things, over 10 million videos have been posted on the site to date. Also, Pornhub now receives 75 million (!) visitors per day, and the average user spends about 10 minutes there per vis...

We've been swingers, or "in the swing lifestyle," as it's called, for six years. I'm a middle-aged, heterosexual female in a long-term, committed relationship with a middle-aged, heterosexual male. Yes, we are in a committed relationship and openly enjoying sex with people outside of our relationship. And, no, there's no jealousy or drama. The diff...

Several months ago I decided, at the is-it-too-late age of 61, to step away from the idea of finding that one perfect mate who could satisfy all my dreams, give me everything I needed, and be by my side for the rest of time. In other words, I've abandoned the fairy tale and am opting for honest and open relationships. I'm having a blast. I'm dating...

In her article Why We Should All Be Talking About Sex A Lot More Often, sex educator Kate McCombs interviewed other sex educators to get their take on the importance of talking about sex. Linda Kirkman's response reflects the reasons I think encouraging older women to talk about sex is important: "to normalize talking about sex and sexuality, to re...

Are you addicted to sex? I asked myself this question recently, and, because I spend so much time in a classroom anyways, I decided to take a test to find out. The questions on this test, posed by psychologists and other sex addiction experts, made me wonder if the sex I was engaging in was a compulsive act beyond my control, or whether it was simp...

Have you ever thought that you or someone you know may be addicted to sex? Maybe it's because you or they watch too much pornography ("too much" according to whom, though?) or you or they seem to have problems saying no to an offer of sex when it comes along, even from strangers (slut shaming anyone?) Sex addiction is a common diagnosis for all kin...

Not having sex can suck. Like, really suck. Maybe you're going through a dry spell in your relationship or you're single and short of quality partners. Whatever the reason, forced abstinence isn't fun. Plus, having regular sex is good for your health. It has all sorts of benefits, from increased serotonin and oxytocin levels to better cardiovascula...

We already know that sex is healthy - it reduces pain, gives your heart a boost and makes you feel happier. But aside from those obviously sexy reasons to get it on, there's a whole world of additional health benefits … if you're willing to get a little kinky. Here's the dirty on the little-known healthy side effects of wilder sex. To swallow or no...

Have you ever seen Madonna's nude pictures from the 1985 issue of Playboy If you haven't, go ahead and Google it. In those pictures, you can see that the young Madonna boasted a fit and curvy body, perky breasts ... and a wild hairy bush. Before you say "gross", just remember that au naturel pubic hair was the norm back then. It was considered sexy...

It's normal to feel both exhilarated and nervous at your first swingers' party or orgy. Group sex shatters a lot of our norms and expectations around sex, so it's easy to get lost in thoughts of "how is it going to go?" To make your experience more fun and less worrisome, I've compiled a few basic etiquette rules surrounding group sex that you shou...

We tend to assume that women don't have as much of a desire for sex as men or that female arousal is some kind of eternal mystery that no scientist — let alone the rest of us mere mortals — could ever really decode. But thankfully, none of that is true.  In the actual research, "we don't see the kind of gender differences people assume exist,"...

"The most common sexual concerns of women of all ages include loss of sexual desire, problems with arousal, inability to achieve orgasm, painful intercourse, negative body image, and diminished sexual desirability and attractiveness." Sexual Function in Elderly Women: A Review of Current Literature, archives of National Institutes of Healtfh . We a...

One of the secrets of a better sex life is having more sex. (Practice makes perfect!) Yet, aside from this obvious wisdom, is there anything not sexy that you can do that actually improves your sex life? Sure. Plenty. Here are a few suggestions. Get Therapy Particularly for long-term couples, therapy has plenty of benefits. Talk therapy can help to...

There are those who would have you believe that the secret to a great sex life lies in expensive , complicated contraptions and accessories. Sure, a sex swing or a gold-plated anal plug (yes, they exist) might put some spice in the bedroom. But let's be honest: They're just objects, and while they might play a role in helping you find sexual fulfil...

OK, who's been a naughty, naughty little kinkster? Tsk, tsk ... somebody needs a spanking! But before you dive headlong into a game of slap and tickle, you may want to read our crash course on spanking. Consider it spanking 101. Why Spanking Is Sensual Some people think spanking a lover's a bit odd, or even taboo, but a good spanking in the bedroom...

Undoubtedly, heading out on a cruise is one of the best ways in which to enjoy a vacation. However, one would be lying to his or herself if they were to say that cruising is without its annoyances. Like it or not, there are just some things about heading out on a cruise ship that can get under the skin of even the most veteran of cruisers. If you'v...

Screw Orgasm Shame — You Don't Need to Have Orgasms to Have Good Sex Please, for the love of pleasure everywhere, stop faking orgasms to spare a partners' feelings. Do you really have to orgasm every time you have sex? For the record, while sexual culture overwhelming focuses on penis-in-vagina (PIV) intercourse, there's a whole world of pleasure t...

  Before going to sex parties myself, I envisioned them to be filled with some strange subset of women who were ridiculously horny and obviously somehow damaged. Because what self-respecting woman would agree to go to a sex party, right? Clearly, I had issues. My perspective was based on a combination of shit my mum drilled into my head about ...

Some say money is the root of all evil; I say it's infidelity. Cheating on your significant other is the worst thing you can do to them in my book. It's dishonest, sneaky, disloyal, and just plain selfish. If you are a frequent reader of my writing, you may be asking right now, " Wait a second, don't you swing?" Yes, I am in the swinging lifestyle,...

Adolescence is a traditionally tricky minefield to navigate for parents. Having "the talk" is the easy part compared to watching your precious little baby blossom into a sexually active teenager. There is no absolute right way to discuss sex, but there are a whole slew of wrong ways that can damage a young person's ability to grow into a sexually h...

Last fall I had dinner with someone who, up until that point, I had only known online. We swapped details and I noticed how her face lit up when she spoke of her partner. She was clearly madly in love and blissfully happy. A few minutes later, as she was talking about an upcoming trip to visit another partner, I felt an urge to ask how that worked ...

Every gal would like to have her cake and eat it too, but is that really possible within the confines of a committed relationship? Some couples think so and, as a result, appear to live quite happily with each other while still having sex with other people. While hard-and-fast statistics about open relationships are hard to come by, some experts es...

Have you noticed there seems to be a lot more talk about nonmonogamy these days? There's been an steady rise in the number of people who identify as polyamorous over the last decade. More and more people are exploring options other than monogamy. But what does this mean for each of us? Tristan Taormino's Opening Up reminds us that there are "many w...

When's the last time you saw a TV show or movie present a functional, happy consensual non-monogamous (or polyamorous) relationship? I must say, I can count the number of these relationships on one hand. Popular media, self-help, pop-psych writing, and even scientific research has held a monogamous bias for a very, very long time. According to a re...

Facts about sex toys...well, here's one for you: The sex toy industry is worth about $15 billion per year worldwide. That's a lot of dildos, people.  But while statistics show that more than half of Americans have used a sex toy and you can now find them in many drugstores, pleasure products still aren't quite mainstream. Depending on your aud...

Traveling with sex toys? Take precautions to avoid an embarrassing airport scene. You may lock your luggage when you travel, but rest assured that what's in there isn't entirely private. Just ask Jill Filopovic , a blogger at Feministe. In 2011, she took a flight and packed her vibrator in a checked bag - only to open it and find a note from a TSA ...

For the last two years I've been involved in a long distance relationship that has involved some fabulous sex. There are a whole lot of things about this relationship that contribute to the sex being fabulous. My partner is wonderful, we're both super-communicative, between us we own the equivalent of a small sex toy shop and we aren't afraid to tr...

Takeaway: You don't have to love your partner's kinks - or even participate in them. You do, however, have to be fair and respectful. "You know what I'm into?" your partner asks. "No, what?" you say, excited at the sexy possibilities. But then they say something you are so not into, and all that excitement drains away. It can be a very anxiety-prov...

People often assume that sex writers have the sexual confidence thing nailed. Nope. We're human too - we do not get our sexual superhero mask, cape, and super powers when we start writing. Case in point: Over the last year, I have been struggling with some health issues that have resulted in my body looking very, very different than it did before. ...

The so-called male G-spot is allegedly the source of mind-blowing orgasms — but are they good for your health as well? The prostate is a mysterious and oft-misunderstood organ. A walnut-size gland found between a man's bladder and his rectum, the prostate's main function is to produce fluid that is expelled as part of semen during ejaculation; it's...

Men are becoming more open to threesomes with a woman and another guy British sociologist Ryan Scoats is bringing new meaning to the old saying "choose a job you love." Scoats, who currently works as a researcher at Birmingham City University, found both academic and internet stardom when it came to light that he gained his PhD from the University ...