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In 2010, Mira Bellwether wrote "Fucking Trans Women," the first piece of its kind that outlined the sex lives of trans women as an educational and instructional piece of text. In the zine, Bellwether discusses "muffing," a term that describes the act of pushing the testicle back inside of a male-bodied person's inguinal canal or penetrating the ing...

To most "squares," the idea of a swingers party elicits visions of a cramped room full of writhing, sweat-soaked bodies; people uninhibited by "traditional" sexual protocols. But, in reality, a sex party is a finely orchestrated get-together that not only requires a good bit of planning, but quite a few rules too. When you're dealing with a large g...

Think you know a lot about sex? Maybe you're right, but there's always more to learn! Here are 110 sex facts you may not know. According to a survey of adults aged 20 to 59, women have an average of four sex partners during their lifetime; men have an average of seven. Source: National Center for Health Statistics According to sex researchers Willi...

We all have a million and one other obligations - kids, parents, work, binge-watching Netflix - and they often interfere with our sex lives. Once you discover your kinks – and the fun you can have with them - sometimes you crave a little carnal fun. More sex, please! But real life sometimes seems intent on stopping your kinky fun. What can you do a...

There are a few reasons why someone might want to engage in discrete public displays of kink. While everyone wants to be authentic in their sexual identities, some might be concerned with offending the sensibilities of non-kinksters or afraid of triggering negative reactions. Kink-identifying people might be more concerned with social shaming and r...

As both a writer and an avid reader, a clever turn of a phrase has long been one of my greatest turn-ons. In the days of dating apps and "U awake?" texts, it's harder to get my fix of the written word. That's one of the reasons that I love long-distance play. Although long-distance relationships come with their own challenges, they do force you to ...

Everyone carries with them their own unique advantages. For the gay community, their advantage is undoubtedly mastering oral sex. Not only are they on the receiving end, they're on the giving end. Straight women, on the other hand, no matter how much they might perform the act, will never compare to a gay man. It's not because one gender is better ...

To be honest, it's not that difficult to make a guy orgasm. It takes work, that's for sure. But that's the case with anybody during sex. The orgasm doesn't just flow on its own, so to speak. However, that's not to say you can't get creative. There's a technique called the lingam massage, and it's about to become your man's new best friend. Its func...

What if we told you that better sex was possible in just 14 days' time? Actually, it is – if you're willing to put in the time and effort. You're up for it, right? After all, a big part of keeping your sex life hot and healthy has to do with learning more about yourself, learning more about your partner and just making an effort. Valentine's day is...

Let's talk about casual sex - that thing that good girls and old ladies don't do. It's just …. bad, sinful, and filled with emotionally fraught! I started to think about this when I made a list of 60 things I want to do, which includes casual sex, in this year following my 60th birthday. So, what's wrong with casual sex? Regardless of our "older" a...

It turns out a nice, robust derriere is more than just a $exual attraction turn on, but an actual indicator of increased intelligence, and an indicator for chronic illness resistance! This interesting news comes straight from scientists from the University of Oxford who found out these remarkable traits exist with women who have big butts. Turns ou...

The more of it I read, the more I am fascinated with sex research. It takes courage to be a sex researcher: you need to convince people to participate - and convince funding agencies to help pay for it all. Because sex is still such a big taboo, both these things are more difficult than it seems. I'm fairly lucky to live in Canada, where sex resear...

When I wrote my semi-ranty piece about Hotwife Training earlier this year, I had completely underestimated the earnest desire of men who wanted to get their partners interested in Hotwifing. I initially assumed these husbands were solely motivated by their own sexual proclivities but as I discovered more about the lifestyle, I've come to understand...

So, you're in a steady relationship and everything is going great, but you're starting to fixate on the idea of a threesome and aren't sure how to ask your girl? Fret not, homies. Every man on Earth has desired multiple partners in bed. It's hardly taboo anymore. In all honesty, women have those same exact fantasies, but we're not as quick to act o...

In this day and age, it amazes me that women are still shamed for being sexual beings. Um, hello?! We're human! We have desires and fantasies and needs, damn it, just like men! So how is it that we're living in a society where women have fought for the right to vote, for equality in the workplace, and for the freedom of choice when it comes to our ...

JC's Tip: I love this article! A lot of these tips you can do at Hedonism or the Desires.  I t's exhibitionist's season! The sizzling heat, beautiful weather, and long summer nights are all perfect reasons to let your inner exhibitionist loose and have some sexy outdoor fun! Sex on the Beach Not only is it my favorite alcoholic beverage, but i...

Exhibitionists get a bad rap. Sure, there's a subset of people who have a compulsion to expose themselves to strangers at really inappropriate times - on a subway, on the freeway, in the grocery store - when the stranger is not at all interested in seeing their junk. However, there are many other people who simply get a thrill out of revealing part...

Are you a woman? Do you have sex? If you answered "yes" to these two questions, then someone, somewhere, thinks you are a slut . According to the Oxford English Dictionary, a slut is "a slovenly or promiscuous ." Of course, it's a derogatory word. It's meant to be an insult: "You're a woman who's having lots of sex! You're dirty and a terrible pers...

I consider myself very lucky. At the other end of a phone line, whenever I want or need, is my Grandmother; all 95 years and counting of her. Full of spunk and sass, she's the type that will help wheel people 20 years younger than her down to the dinner hall of their home and, if the need arises, she'll have also shucked the corn they have for dinn...

Hand jobs get such a bad rap. In the last week alone, I heard them referred to as "immature" by Amy Schumer, saw them called "sad," and was finally greeted on Facebook by this quote: " Hand jobs are like Catcher in the Rye, if you're 15, they are the best thing ever. After that, you have had better, so what's the point?" -Sean Carswell Well, clearl...

I can vividly remember a conversation with a girlfriend of mine when I lived in California. Back then, she was approaching 40, while I was 35 and a stay-at-home mom with two small children under two years old. This friend told me that she and her husband were trying to have sex 100 days in a row. My first thought: That's not possible! My second tho...

When I first sat down with him, it was quite possibly the most nervous I had ever been upon entering a scene. I thought I was over-reacting at first; this guy only wanted me to spank him, right? However, It would be my first time dominating anyone. What I learned is that you can never be too careful when you're working with someone. You should alwa...

There are loads of statistics about how women tend not to ask for what they want and need. Not in academic settings, not in the boardroom and, although no one's talking about it, we know this one applies in the bedroom too. Actually, to be fair, research suggests that the vast majority of people undercommunicate when it comes to sex, even in long-t...

You've probably heard the term sex positive, but do you know what it means? In recent years, it has shifted from its feminist roots and has been used to refer to people who enjoy sex and are open to all forms of sexual expression. But, as with many aspects of sex and sexuality, it's actually a lot more complicated than that. Sure, embracing your (a...

  Sex toys may not be the perfect gift for everyone on your list, but wouldn't it be awesome if they were? I mean, when you think of all the junk that circulates and is re-gifted ( ohhhh … thanks for … this) every year, wouldn't it be awesome if we lived in a world where we could all hand out amazing orgasms to everyone we loved like holiday c...

One typical way of fighting heteronormativity is to answer the question "When did you decide you were gay/lesbian/bisexual?" with "When did you decide you were straight?" It turns the question on its head and gives the straight person a new perspective from which to evaluate their sexual identity. However, the fact that a straight identity is most ...

According to Brené Brown, PhD and shame researcher, "Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough. Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change." As a highly sexual, bisexual, and kinkster woman, I have to deal with a lot of shame thrown at me by the media, our patriarchal culture...

We all know that staying in shape keeps us healthy and predicates good sex in a number of ways - you look sexy, you feel happier, etc. But what about toning your body from the inside? As it turns out, women especially have some important sexual muscles they should be flexing if they want a healthy sex life. In 1952, Dr. Arnold Kegel invented a seri...

"Would you like to play Cupid?" read the job post. Completely unqualified, I landed a job co-managing a 10-page section of the Philadelphia Weekly and more than 500 singles. From a cubicle high above Rittenhouse Square, I had a blast fielding snail mail and hard copy photos from a sea of self-declared Tom Cruise wannabes and Sharon Stone look-alike...

Every year, technology gets a little more advanced, bringing us everything from color-changing WiFi enabled light bulbs to self-driving cars. The integration of tech and, well, everything has made life infinitely better and easier - almost irrefutably so. But when it comes to technology and sex, people's opinions are divided. Some say that letting ...

  New Years Group 2018 at Hedonism II Resort Ring in 2018 with all your Friends at Hedonism II Resort in Negril, Jamaica December 26 - January 2, 2018. Join us for seven nights of pure party at the #1 lifestyle Resort. Join your Dream Pleasure Tours staff for an incredible party week and ring in the New Year like never before! This is proven t...

This year, Pornhub celebrated its tenth birthday. To commemorate the occasion, they released some fascinating data on trends in users' viewing habits. Among other things, over 10 million videos have been posted on the site to date. Also, Pornhub now receives 75 million (!) visitors per day, and the average user spends about 10 minutes there per vis...

We've been swingers, or "in the swing lifestyle," as it's called, for six years. I'm a middle-aged, heterosexual female in a long-term, committed relationship with a middle-aged, heterosexual male. Yes, we are in a committed relationship and openly enjoying sex with people outside of our relationship. And, no, there's no jealousy or drama. The diff...

Several months ago I decided, at the is-it-too-late age of 61, to step away from the idea of finding that one perfect mate who could satisfy all my dreams, give me everything I needed, and be by my side for the rest of time. In other words, I've abandoned the fairy tale and am opting for honest and open relationships. I'm having a blast. I'm dating...

In her article Why We Should All Be Talking About Sex A Lot More Often, sex educator Kate McCombs interviewed other sex educators to get their take on the importance of talking about sex. Linda Kirkman's response reflects the reasons I think encouraging older women to talk about sex is important: "to normalize talking about sex and sexuality, to re...

Are you addicted to sex? I asked myself this question recently, and, because I spend so much time in a classroom anyways, I decided to take a test to find out. The questions on this test, posed by psychologists and other sex addiction experts, made me wonder if the sex I was engaging in was a compulsive act beyond my control, or whether it was simp...

Have you ever thought that you or someone you know may be addicted to sex? Maybe it's because you or they watch too much pornography ("too much" according to whom, though?) or you or they seem to have problems saying no to an offer of sex when it comes along, even from strangers (slut shaming anyone?) Sex addiction is a common diagnosis for all kin...

Have you ever seen Madonna's nude pictures from the 1985 issue of Playboy If you haven't, go ahead and Google it. In those pictures, you can see that the young Madonna boasted a fit and curvy body, perky breasts ... and a wild hairy bush. Before you say "gross", just remember that au naturel pubic hair was the norm back then. It was considered sexy...

It's normal to feel both exhilarated and nervous at your first swingers' party or orgy. Group sex shatters a lot of our norms and expectations around sex, so it's easy to get lost in thoughts of "how is it going to go?" To make your experience more fun and less worrisome, I've compiled a few basic etiquette rules surrounding group sex that you shou...

We tend to assume that women don't have as much of a desire for sex as men or that female arousal is some kind of eternal mystery that no scientist — let alone the rest of us mere mortals — could ever really decode. But thankfully, none of that is true.  In the actual research, "we don't see the kind of gender differences people assume exist,"...

"The most common sexual concerns of women of all ages include loss of sexual desire, problems with arousal, inability to achieve orgasm, painful intercourse, negative body image, and diminished sexual desirability and attractiveness." Sexual Function in Elderly Women: A Review of Current Literature, archives of National Institutes of Healtfh . We a...

One of the secrets of a better sex life is having more sex. (Practice makes perfect!) Yet, aside from this obvious wisdom, is there anything not sexy that you can do that actually improves your sex life? Sure. Plenty. Here are a few suggestions. Get Therapy Particularly for long-term couples, therapy has plenty of benefits. Talk therapy can help to...

OK, who's been a naughty, naughty little kinkster? Tsk, tsk ... somebody needs a spanking! But before you dive headlong into a game of slap and tickle, you may want to read our crash course on spanking. Consider it spanking 101. Why Spanking Is Sensual Some people think spanking a lover's a bit odd, or even taboo, but a good spanking in the bedroom...

Undoubtedly, heading out on a cruise is one of the best ways in which to enjoy a vacation. However, one would be lying to his or herself if they were to say that cruising is without its annoyances. Like it or not, there are just some things about heading out on a cruise ship that can get under the skin of even the most veteran of cruisers. If you'v...

Screw Orgasm Shame — You Don't Need to Have Orgasms to Have Good Sex Please, for the love of pleasure everywhere, stop faking orgasms to spare a partners' feelings. Do you really have to orgasm every time you have sex? For the record, while sexual culture overwhelming focuses on penis-in-vagina (PIV) intercourse, there's a whole world of pleasure t...

Adolescence is a traditionally tricky minefield to navigate for parents. Having "the talk" is the easy part compared to watching your precious little baby blossom into a sexually active teenager. There is no absolute right way to discuss sex, but there are a whole slew of wrong ways that can damage a young person's ability to grow into a sexually h...

Last fall I had dinner with someone who, up until that point, I had only known online. We swapped details and I noticed how her face lit up when she spoke of her partner. She was clearly madly in love and blissfully happy. A few minutes later, as she was talking about an upcoming trip to visit another partner, I felt an urge to ask how that worked ...

Every gal would like to have her cake and eat it too, but is that really possible within the confines of a committed relationship? Some couples think so and, as a result, appear to live quite happily with each other while still having sex with other people. While hard-and-fast statistics about open relationships are hard to come by, some experts es...

Have you noticed there seems to be a lot more talk about nonmonogamy these days? There's been an steady rise in the number of people who identify as polyamorous over the last decade. More and more people are exploring options other than monogamy. But what does this mean for each of us? Tristan Taormino's Opening Up reminds us that there are "many w...

When's the last time you saw a TV show or movie present a functional, happy consensual non-monogamous (or polyamorous) relationship? I must say, I can count the number of these relationships on one hand. Popular media, self-help, pop-psych writing, and even scientific research has held a monogamous bias for a very, very long time. According to a re...

Facts about sex toys...well, here's one for you: The sex toy industry is worth about $15 billion per year worldwide. That's a lot of dildos, people.  But while statistics show that more than half of Americans have used a sex toy and you can now find them in many drugstores, pleasure products still aren't quite mainstream. Depending on your aud...

For the last two years I've been involved in a long distance relationship that has involved some fabulous sex. There are a whole lot of things about this relationship that contribute to the sex being fabulous. My partner is wonderful, we're both super-communicative, between us we own the equivalent of a small sex toy shop and we aren't afraid to tr...

The so-called male G-spot is allegedly the source of mind-blowing orgasms — but are they good for your health as well? The prostate is a mysterious and oft-misunderstood organ. A walnut-size gland found between a man's bladder and his rectum, the prostate's main function is to produce fluid that is expelled as part of semen during ejaculation; it's...

Men are becoming more open to threesomes with a woman and another guy British sociologist Ryan Scoats is bringing new meaning to the old saying "choose a job you love." Scoats, who currently works as a researcher at Birmingham City University, found both academic and internet stardom when it came to light that he gained his PhD from the University ...

1. Aquarius Every Aquarius has what it takes to write erotica. Since they are artists at heart, they are able to come up with creative scenarios and write detailed scenes. They won't text you something simple like, "I'm horny." They will weave an entire story meant to turn you on. They will make you feel like you're really in bed with them. 2. Arie...

FBI agents made an astonishing discovery this morning while executing a search warrant at the residence of a Houston mortician: 3,178 embalmed human penises. The Federal Bureau of Investigation suspected 54-year old Dave Murray, an employee of the Harris County Morgue, of being implicated in an organ trafficking network. Investigating several repor...

They make sex FUN. The swinger's lifestyle isn't something that crosses everyone's mind. It can be hard to keep relationships casual while still have a serious one, especially with emotions being so unpredictable. If you don't know what swingers are, they are couples who look for other couples to have casual, consensual sex with. Swinging is good f...

Are you looking to be a bad boy in the bedroom but aren't sure how? Trying out these sex tricks is a surefire way to keep her coming back for more! Have you ever heard about men having "moves" in the sack? For a lot of people, this term can get a little confusing. After all, what possible moves could you have besides "penis goes in vagina," or "m...

Don't try to hide it. When you're alone at home, you probably take a peek down there, you know, to see how things are. Maybe even snap some pussy selfies. The thing with pussy selfies is that it's kind of an art. Or maybe it's just me, maybe I'm just horrible at taking selfies of my vagina. If you haven't taken a selfie of your vagina, you be wonde...

The question, what does a vagina feel like, is what you would imagine a hormone-raged pubescent boy would ask. However, the ladies are no exception. Being on the "receiving" end during sex, the experience is obviously different from their perspective. And they are undoubtedly equally curious about how their lady parts feel from their partner's end ...

You thought that there was only one type of vagina? Think again. In fact, there are five different types of vaginas that you need to know about.As someone who has a vagina, I was pleasantly surprised by learning that there were five types of vaginas. If you're a female, you've probably spent some time staring in the mirror, thinking, is my vagina n...

Asking a girl, "Want to sit on my face?" may not be the best way to ask her to engage in some sexy time. Here are 6  reasons why she might turn it down. Do you find yourself repeatedly asking your girl if she wants to have some sexy sitting time on your face, only to be met with bored or embarrassed nos? Reasonably, this may leave you beyond p...

Many men think they can lick a pussy, but there's a difference between thinking you can do it and actually knowing how to lick pussy. So many women have encountered a guy that says he's the best pussy eater but when it comes down to it, it's a nightmare. Jackhammering our pussies with your tongue isn't going to do the job. I know she's probably moa...

JC's TIP: If you are headed out to a lifestyle club you should treat it as date night, not only with your partner but potential hookups at the club as well.  You're about to go out on a date. You've showered, shaved and picked the perfect outfit. But is that all you really need to do, to wow your date? Men are inherently confident when it come...

While it takes a flash of skin and a dress that leaves little to the imagination to turn a guy on, women have more innocuous turn-ons . Men are simple. Take a beautiful face, a sexy body, a warm smile, and she's already halfway towards being a man's dream girl. With women, it's difficult. You can be the most dashing gentleman on this side of the gl...

Facial Hair. Chest Hair. Back Hair. Boys, if you want to find out what women really think about your manscaping routine, pay very close attention. Manscaping has been taking the world by storm and growing in popularity within the last year–something I am actually grateful for. But the one question that has been plaguing nearly every guy's mind, sin...

Confidence is never out of style, and it's your golden ticket to the dating scene. Learn how you can exude confidence with your body in 10 easy steps! Confidence – it's something both men and women claim to be a huge turn on in a partner, yet so many people are lacking it! Confidence is key when it comes to landing your dream job, or acing your fir...

1. It creates confidence. I don't need to tell anyone that confidence makes you sexy, so I'll just skip to the creating confidence part that is sometimes a problem. When you travel, especially alone, you learn to be independent and in charge. You feel accomplished and proud that you've traveled somewhere, and all of that comes together to create a ...

  ​ Do You Like Big Breasts? ​ Are you a breast man? Butt man? Or do legs drive you wild? Your preference is about more than whether you had a Heather Locklear or Pamela Anderson poster above your bed as a teenager. In fact, whether you appreciate an hourglass figure, smoldering eyes, or humble breasts can give you hidden clues about your rela...

The Science of Why You're an Ass Man  Researchers explain the allure of the backside It's a glorious time to be an ass man: Nicki Minaj exists, yoga pants are a thing, and women everywhere are squatting their way to more shapely backsides.But of course, your obsession with the female butt is nothing new. In fact, it's primal, says David Buss, ...

Firefighters free tourist's penis trapped in sex toy To finish the operation it was necessary to administer a total anesthetic IBIZA, Spain — Medics in Ibiza were forced to enlist the help of buzz-saw-wielding fire-fighters on Wednesday to free a German tourist from the clutches of a steel sex toy. Emergency services needed two hours to cut through...

No matter how long you've been with your current partner, there is always one subject that causes at least some discomfort: sex. Talking about sex, for some reason is always awkward even for me. Only recently did I start to become more open about it. With my partners in the past, I might have mentioned a few things here and there, but we never real...

What should you know about swinging before you try to swing with your partner? Here are the ten most important rules that every swinger couple should know and follow to make sure you have a good time while swapping partners. Like any other human activity, swinging also has its pros and cons. A few basic laid down principles can make swinging fun an...

. It could be argued that we live in the most sexual era of all time. Sexual barriers have fallen, contraception allows us to separate reproductive consequences from sexual experiences (usually). Online dating has made it exponentially easier to find sexual partners. And internet porn is available to all with a simple click or two of the mouse. And...

  Cuckolding Relationships Have Reached A Record High Every sexual relationship is different. However, some sexual fetishes are very different, and this is one of them. It turns out relationships that experiment with cuckolding are very much on the rise, and psychologists can't quite figure out why. Theories abound everywhere, but the men and ...

Six Sex Positions for Men Who Are Overweight Guys -- if you're on the heavy side, it doesn't mean you can't have good sex. We know that it can get a little tricky. Depending on your size and the size of your partner, there can be some logistics to work out. With the right positions and possibly a purchase or two, you can get back to having the kind...

  ​ Women Open Up About How They Really Feel About Anal Sex ​ Anal sex is a great way to keep things interesting in the bedroom, but it's safe to say that it's not for everyone. While some really love it, others find themselves completely put off by it. For the most part, men seem to be the most into it, but how do women really feel about it? ...

  Love is a strange emotion that is beyond human wisdom. Although relationship therapy has made strides in redefining love, there is a lot that is yet to be  discovered with regards to this complicated emotion. When a man is in love with a woman, there are certain things they adore in them that a woman may or may  not be aware of. Th...

​ 1. Scorpio Scorpios are smooth AF. They can hold a conversation with anybody they meet — but they don't give too much away during the first interaction in order to keep the mystery alive. To keep people interested. And a lot of people are interested in Scorpios. There's something about them that naturally draws attention. 2. Virgo Virgos use thei...

  7 Manscaping Tricks Every Guy Should Know These tips will make manscaping as painless as possible. You wouldn't whack your way through a forest's uncharted territory without devising a strategy first. So the same should apply to clearing the path to your private parts: That thick thatch of hair is sprouted atop sensitive terrain, where even ...

  Why You Should Ejaculate At Least 21 Times This Month, According to ScienceCheers to more sex—either with a partner  or solo! The key to good prostate health might be in your own hands: Ejaculating frequently may reduce your risk of prostate cancer, finds new research from the Boston University of Public Health. The study looked at how ...

  How to Give Her a Massage That Will Leave Her Begging For More  Your 4-step guide to rubbing her the extremely right way When you give your better half a rubdown, go slow. That's the massage message from Susan Findlay, director of the North London School of Sports Massage."Use the heel of your hand to make continuous fluid movements and...

  7 Reasons to Book a Balcony Cabin Cruise ships can have a lot of different cabin layouts and categories, and sometimes it feels like it takes having a PhD to figure out which one is best for you. When looking for your next cruise, you may want to consider booking a balcony cabin to extract the most enjoyment from your vacation. Here are seve...

  5 Game of Thrones Sex Positions to Unleash Your Inner Queen You'll be screaming "Dracarys!" because these are straight hot. For a show with so many stupidly-attractive characters (I see you, Tormund ) the sex scenes on Game of Thrones leave a lot to be desired. When they're not incestuous or non-consensual , they're often lacking passion or ...

The U.S. State Department's new travel advisory warning Americans about the risks of traveling to Cancún and Los Cabos should not be taken too seriously.  Compared to some crime-ridden U.S. cities — or the deaths from recent U.S. mass shootings — these Mexican resorts look like safe havens. The Aug. 22 U.S. travel advisory added the two Mexica...