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110 Interesting, Weird, and Surprising Sex Facts

Think you know a lot about sex? Maybe you're right, but there's always more to learn! Here are 110 sex facts you may not know. According to a survey of adults aged 20 to 59, women have an average of four sex partners during their lifetime; men have an average of seven. Source: National Center for Health Statistics According to sex researchers Willi...
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Kinkly's 14-Day Sex Challenge - Are You Up for It?

What if we told you that better sex was possible in just 14 days' time? Actually, it is – if you're willing to put in the time and effort. You're up for it, right? After all, a big part of keeping your sex life hot and healthy has to do with learning more about yourself, learning more about your partner and just making an effort. Valentine's day is...
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Casual Sex at Our Age?

Let's talk about casual sex - that thing that good girls and old ladies don't do. It's just …. bad, sinful, and filled with emotionally fraught! I started to think about this when I made a list of 60 things I want to do, which includes casual sex, in this year following my 60th birthday. So, what's wrong with casual sex? Regardless of our "older" a...
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I Went To A Clothing-Optional Resort With My Partner & I Felt Closer To Him Than Ever Before. (NSFW)

A few months ago, I received an invitation to write a piece on the travel trend of clothing-optional resorts by going to three with my partner: Desire Riviera Maya Pearl Resort, Desire Riviera Maya Resort, and Temptation Cancun Resort in Mexico. I know, I have the best job ever. Naturally, I emailed the PR rep back with a "yes" within an hour, and ...
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10 Things You Didn't Know About Foreplay

If there's any aspect of sex that's misunderstood, debated about and often under-appreciated, it's foreplay. But while many people think of foreplay as preamble, a required formality you have to go through before getting to the good stuff, it is great foreplay that sets the stage for great sex. Think of it like kicking off a meal at a fancy restaur...
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6 Things About Sexuality That I Have Learned From My Kinkiest Friends

1. What "real" bodies look like. If you've never been to a kink party or a BDSM dungeon, I've got news for you. You see a lot of flesh. People wear sexy and revealing clothing or no clothing at all. People have sex where you can watch. There are boobs and butts and dicks. Some belong to your lovers and friends and others belong to strangers. And wh...
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You're Not Really A Couple Until You Have These 17 Different Types Of Sex

1. Drunk sex Early in a relationship, it's typical to get tipsy and/or flat-out wasted before getting naked together. Alcohol eases our inhibitions and makes the process of learning someone else's body slightly less intimidating. If booze helps you figure out how to turn your partner on and get them off, so be it! 2. Hungover sex Whether you were b...
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Beyond Plain Vanilla: 8 New Things to Learn in the Bedroom

You've probably heard that variety is the spice of life. Well, that doesn't just apply to food and weekend excursions; it also applies to sex. Because let's face it, pumping away at the same repetitive missionary moves can dampen the flame of passion. To keep things hot and heavy, couples need to keep things interesting. So forget plain vanilla - s...
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4 Reasons Why You Have Better Sex Than Your Grandparents

I consider myself very lucky. At the other end of a phone line, whenever I want or need, is my Grandmother; all 95 years and counting of her. Full of spunk and sass, she's the type that will help wheel people 20 years younger than her down to the dinner hall of their home and, if the need arises, she'll have also shucked the corn they have for dinn...
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Asking for It: 7 Tips to Getting the Sex Life You Always Wanted

There are loads of statistics about how women tend not to ask for what they want and need. Not in academic settings, not in the boardroom and, although no one's talking about it, we know this one applies in the bedroom too. Actually, to be fair, research suggests that the vast majority of people undercommunicate when it comes to sex, even in long-t...
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7 Things Sex-Positive People Know (and How to Learn Them)

You've probably heard the term sex positive, but do you know what it means? In recent years, it has shifted from its feminist roots and has been used to refer to people who enjoy sex and are open to all forms of sexual expression. But, as with many aspects of sex and sexuality, it's actually a lot more complicated than that. Sure, embracing your (a...
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The Future of Sex: 4 Things We Are Likely to See (Along With Robots)

There will be sex with robots. There, I said it. If we're going to talk about the future of sex, we may as well get that out of the way right up front. But while robot sex is certainly a very sensational aspect of what the future of sex might look like, the thing that most people don't realize is that there's so much more to sex tech (yes, it's a t...
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6 Things People Get Totally Wrong About Sex, According To Sex Therapists

Any sex therapist will tell you that the more you know about sex, the better you'll be in bed. If you're sexually misinformed, sex is likely to be less pleasurable for you and your partner.  Below, sex therapists from around the country share the most common misconceptions they've heard about sex. (For even more myths about sex and intimacy, h...
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Exhibitionism: More Than Meets the Eye

Humans are natural exhibitionists (well, to at least some degree) whether it be having sex in a park, or wearing those tight mesh in-set leggings to the gym to show off that bodacious derrière. For most animals, showing off their sexual prowess is a way to display themselves to potential mates, but we participate in sexual acts for far more than ju...
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7 Myths About Women and Masturbation It's Time to Unlearn Right Now

"I think I masturbate more when I'm stressed." "You masturbate?" This conversation I had with a male friend embodies the surprise a lot of people express when they find out I not only masturbate but also admit it unabashedly. Because even though this friend and I talked about sex all the time and he knew I was sexually active in my relationships, t...
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How I Became a Swinger

We've been swingers, or "in the swing lifestyle," as it's called, for six years. I'm a middle-aged, heterosexual female in a long-term, committed relationship with a middle-aged, heterosexual male. Yes, we are in a committed relationship and openly enjoying sex with people outside of our relationship. And, no, there's no jealousy or drama. The diff...
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Sex After 50: It's Time to Change Things Up

Several months ago I decided, at the is-it-too-late age of 61, to step away from the idea of finding that one perfect mate who could satisfy all my dreams, give me everything I needed, and be by my side for the rest of time. In other words, I've abandoned the fairy tale and am opting for honest and open relationships. I'm having a blast. I'm dating...
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Are you Over 50 and Having Sex? You Should Be

In her article Why We Should All Be Talking About Sex A Lot More Often, sex educator Kate McCombs interviewed other sex educators to get their take on the importance of talking about sex. Linda Kirkman's response reflects the reasons I think encouraging older women to talk about sex is important: "to normalize talking about sex and sexuality, to re...
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Am I Addicted to Sex?

Are you addicted to sex? I asked myself this question recently, and, because I spend so much time in a classroom anyways, I decided to take a test to find out. The questions on this test, posed by psychologists and other sex addiction experts, made me wonder if the sex I was engaging in was a compulsive act beyond my control, or whether it was simp...
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No, Sex Addiction Doesn't Exist. Here's What It Really Is.

Have you ever thought that you or someone you know may be addicted to sex? Maybe it's because you or they watch too much pornography ("too much" according to whom, though?) or you or they seem to have problems saying no to an offer of sex when it comes along, even from strangers (slut shaming anyone?) Sex addiction is a common diagnosis for all kin...
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5 Things That Can Happen to Your Body When You Don't Have Sex

Not having sex can suck. Like, really suck. Maybe you're going through a dry spell in your relationship or you're single and short of quality partners. Whatever the reason, forced abstinence isn't fun. Plus, having regular sex is good for your health. It has all sorts of benefits, from increased serotonin and oxytocin levels to better cardiovascula...
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The 6 Little-Known Health Benefits of Kinky Sex

We already know that sex is healthy - it reduces pain, gives your heart a boost and makes you feel happier. But aside from those obviously sexy reasons to get it on, there's a whole world of additional health benefits … if you're willing to get a little kinky. Here's the dirty on the little-known healthy side effects of wilder sex. To swallow or no...
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Group Sex Etiquette 101

It's normal to feel both exhilarated and nervous at your first swingers' party or orgy. Group sex shatters a lot of our norms and expectations around sex, so it's easy to get lost in thoughts of "how is it going to go?" To make your experience more fun and less worrisome, I've compiled a few basic etiquette rules surrounding group sex that you shou...
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What Men & Women Really Want Out Of Their Sex Lives, According To Science

We tend to assume that women don't have as much of a desire for sex as men or that female arousal is some kind of eternal mystery that no scientist — let alone the rest of us mere mortals — could ever really decode. But thankfully, none of that is true.  In the actual research, "we don't see the kind of gender differences people assume exist,"...
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6 Not-So-Sexy Things That Lead to Better Sex

One of the secrets of a better sex life is having more sex. (Practice makes perfect!) Yet, aside from this obvious wisdom, is there anything not sexy that you can do that actually improves your sex life? Sure. Plenty. Here are a few suggestions. Get Therapy Particularly for long-term couples, therapy has plenty of benefits. Talk therapy can help to...
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Screw Orgasm Shame — You Don't Need to Have Orgasms to Have Good Sex

Screw Orgasm Shame — You Don't Need to Have Orgasms to Have Good Sex Please, for the love of pleasure everywhere, stop faking orgasms to spare a partners' feelings. Do you really have to orgasm every time you have sex? For the record, while sexual culture overwhelming focuses on penis-in-vagina (PIV) intercourse, there's a whole world of pleasure t...
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What I Learned from My Mom's Negative View of Sex

Adolescence is a traditionally tricky minefield to navigate for parents. Having "the talk" is the easy part compared to watching your precious little baby blossom into a sexually active teenager. There is no absolute right way to discuss sex, but there are a whole slew of wrong ways that can damage a young person's ability to grow into a sexually h...
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The Right - and Wrong - Way to Have a Threesome

I had a date with a couple recently and I couldn't resist the irony; I wore my mirrored unicorn broach. For those who don't know, a unicorn is the slang term for a single bisexual woman. There are a few different definitions floating around, but that's the gist. And although I'm not single; I'm poly, so that's close enough to fit the bill. (Get to ...
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How to Spice Up Your Sex Life in 30 Sexy Ways

Is sex getting boring or monotonous? Not anymore! Try these 30 tips on how to spice up your sex life and you can bring the sizzle back in no time. New relationships are always exciting, especially when it comes to sex. The whole act of exploring each other and experiencing new together times in bed can be a rush that few things can ever give you. I...
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8 Ways You're Sabotaging Your Sex Life

It's not easy to have great sex, but it's even harder if you're doing these things. Yes, it's possible you're kind of ruining your own sex life, but the good news is there may be an easy fix. Cosmopolitan.com spoke with Madeleine Castellanos M.D., author of Wanting to Want: What Kills Your Sex Life and How to Keep It Alive, to help you figure out y...
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Six Sex Positions for Men Who Are Overweight

Six Sex Positions for Men Who Are Overweight Guys -- if you're on the heavy side, it doesn't mean you can't have good sex. We know that it can get a little tricky. Depending on your size and the size of your partner, there can be some logistics to work out. With the right positions and possibly a purchase or two, you can get back to having the kind...
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