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Swinger Party Etiquette: How To Guidelines

On your next swingers party be on your best swingers behavior.  You'll have more fun, and so will everyone else.

Recently we've heard from our friends across the country that sometimes people who attend swingers parties are not on their best behavior.  We even saw some poor swingers behavior on a recent vacation.  Robert and Torie, one of our alumni host couples, who have attended swingers parties around the country and who assist us with groups to Hedonism II, Desire Resorts and on Swingers Cruisesswingers party, wrote the following article about Swinger Party Etiquette. Make sure when you attend your next swingers party that you are on your best swingers behavior.  You'll have more fun, and so will everyone else.

When it comes to venues where couples in the lifestyle can meet each other, there are lots of options.  One of the most convenient and often least expensive ways to meet and mingle with other couples is at a club or house party. Sometimes the venue may be an on-premise club where you typically have a socializing area and play areas all under one roof.  Other times the parties take place in a home, a bar or a hotel.  There are pros and cons to each of these.  The house parties are private, with play areas easily accessible, but they are typically in a regular suburban neighborhood with non-lifestyle neighbors. With bars and hotel meet-and-greets, the idea is just that – to meet and greet.  If there is a connection between couples, then you can head off to a hotel room or to one of your homes.

swingers hot tub partyOne of the great things about the lifestyle is the freedom it affords us, but we have to remember that when we are at a venue that is not solely dedicated to lifestyle activities, there are definite no-no’s that must be adhered to in order to ensure that our favorite places invite us back next week.

Here are some things to keep in mind when at a meet-and-greet in a venue that also caters to non-lifestylers.

1.    No sex in public places.The idea of having sex out in the open is definitely exhilarating, but when a couple decides to sneak off to the hotel’s sauna for a quick romp, and gets walked in on by a hotel guest who was just hoping to unwind with a quick sauna, it is not going to turn out well, especially when the guest’s next stop is to complain to the hotel manager.  Why risk getting splinters in places you don’t want them when a nice hotel
bed is just down the hall?

swingers party2.    Keep your privates private.  Ladies, we are quite sure that your brand new clit piercing is simply amazing, and guys, that python of yours is no doubt a sight not to be missed, but keep the showings to those in the lifestyle who express interest in wanting to see them. The ladies who are also in that bar or hotel, and are enjoying a “vanilla” girls night out, honestly may just be looking to have a beer with friends, not a peep show.

3.    Watch your language and your smoke. When stepping outside the bar or hotel, watch your conversation. Four letter words properly placed in the right person’s ear at the appropriate time can definitely be a turn-on, but is a definite turn off when the ones overhearing your conversation are a 10 year girl and her parents, who just happen to be in your vicinity. Same thing goes for smoking.  Smokers, please smoke only in the areas the venue has designated as smoking areas. Just as we need to be courteous about who is hearing our conversation, we also need to be aware of who is breathing our smoke.

4.    The lifestyle is not for everyone.  We all got to this place through different pathways, and people who are interested in finding out more about the lifestyle will be the ones who have come to the party, not the “vanillas” in the bar or the lobby of the hotel. Open conversations about the lifestyle and our experiences in it will make some non-lifestylersfeel uncomfortable. We all need to be respectful of others’ sensitivities.

5.    Keep your hands to yourself. Two of the cornerstones of the lifestyle are the adages “No Means No” and “Ask Before You Touch”. Needless to say, this goes for everyone, both in and out of the lifestyle. Doing otherwise can get you labeled everything from a gropey pest to a sexual predator. Unless you are with another consenting adult, no rubbing, touching, butt pinching or any other physical overtures without making a specific request and getting a definitive “yes!”.

sexy swingersThe guidelines of how to best navigate the ins and outs (how appropriate!) of lifestyle events held in public venues, or partially public, come down to good old-fashioned common sense.  Just keep these few things in mind when at your next meet-and-greet and you will no doubt end up having a wonderfully sexy time with some delightful fellow lifestylers.

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